Whetheryou're working on a novel or short story, writing dialogue can be a challenge. If you're concerned about how to punctuate dialogue or how to format your quotation marks, fear not; the rules of dialogue in fiction and nonfiction can be mastered by following a few simple rules. Thecivic dialogue described here does intentionally convey the necessity of respectful engagement with people and ideas, yet it rejects the notion of civility3 that "suggests a superficial, pinky-in-the-air veneer of politeness spread thin over human relations like a layer of The idea that "nothing evil can happen to someone who is Truedialogue will only occur if the participating stakeholders are willing to enter the spiritual realm of the logos and converse, if you will, on this deeper level. Cognitive, so-called knowledge-based interactions, which can be described as discussions or ordinary conversations, are not enough for authentic dialogue to occur. Defendyour allies and defeat your opponents." (Clash) "Best your opponents and survive! Victory is a matter of will." (Clash) "Get your head in the fight, Guardians." (Clash) "Execute all targets, and make sure you're still standing when the dust settles." "Capture and hold zones to claim victory." strategy Dialogue and cooperation are essential, but without real deterrence and a serious balancing counterweight, dialogue will achieve little, and genuine cooperation will have limits. The Five-Eyes intelligence partnership between the US, the UK, Australia, Canada and New Zealand has a healthy overlap with the technology focus areas of AUKUS. Vay Tiền Trả Góp Theo Tháng Chỉ Cần Cmnd. 0000THE EURASIA GROUP RESEARCH FELLOW FROM WASHINGTON. THANKS SO MUCH FOR JOINING US. ASIDE FROM THE HANDSHAKE, CAN YOU RECALL THERE EVER BEING A LOWER AB IN CHINA RELATIONS? > > THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME. I THINK THIS IS ALMOST AN IMPROVEMENT ON WHERE WE WERE IN AUGUST OF LAST YEAR WHEN NANCY PELOSI VISITED TAIWAN. THERE IS A LOT HAPPENING BEHIND THE SCENES OBVIOUSLY BEHIND THE HANDSHAKE. THE CHINESE DEFENSE MINISTER HAS BEEN SHA SANCTIONED BY THE UNITED STATES SINCE 2018. THE HANDSHAKE REFLECTS CHINA'S UNWILLINGNESS TO TALK TO THE UNITED STATES WHEN ONE OF THE HIGH-RANKING OFFICIALS IS STILL BEING SANCTIONED. PAUL WE DID HAVE A NUMBER OF INCIDENTS IN THE SOUTH CHINA SEA OVER THE PAST FEW DAYS AND WEEKS BUT NOTABLY OVER THE WEEKEND THE CLOSE PATHS BETWEEN A CHINESE WARSHIP. HOW GREAT IS THE RISK OF ESCALATION AND THERE ARE - AND ARE THERE ADEQUATE GUARD RAILS IN PLACE? > > IT IS NOTABLE IT WAS NOT JUST THE UNITED STATES THERE WAS A CANADIAN SHIP TRANSITING WITH UNITED STATES. I DO NOT THINK THIS IS THE FIRST TIME THIS HAS HAPPENED AND WHEN YOU LOOK AT WHAT YOU MIGHT CALL SOME AIRBORNE SHENANIGANS THAT HAVE BEEN GOING ON FOR SOME YEARS, THESE TYPE OF CLOSE PASSES BY CHINESE MILITARY AIRCRAFT AND VESSELS HAVE BEEN PART OF THE ONGOING TENSIONS IN THE REGION. IN TERMS OF GUARD RAILS, I THINK MORE DIALOGUE BETWEEN HIGH-RANKING DEFENSE OFFICIALS IS VITAL. WE HEARD THIS FROM SOME OF THE DEFENSE MINISTERS PARTICULARLY THE SINGAPOREAN DEFENSE MINISTER WHO SAID MORE COMMUNICATION NEEDS TO BE PART OF A SOLUTION TO THE TENSIONS IN THE REGION. BEYOND MORE COMMUNICATION IT IS HARD TO IMAGINE HOW THINGS LIKE THIS CAN BE RESOLVED QUICKLY OR PREVENT THEM FROM ESCALATING INTO MORE INTENSE SITUATIONS. SHERY YOU SAID THERE WAS A LOT HAPPENING BEHIND THE SCENES. WE HAVE HEARD THE CIA DIRECTOR WENT TO BEIJING LAST MONTH. NO ABOUT THE CLIMATE COOPERATIONS. I DO WONDER HOW MUCH DOES THIS HELP AND IS THIS ENOUGH WHEN YOU HAVE AREAS OF HIGH TENSIONS LIKE THE TAIWAN STRAIT? > > THIS IS NOT ENOUGH CERTAINLY. THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF A THAW. IT IS NOT JUST THE CIA JAKE SULLIVAN NATIONAL SECURITY ADVISOR MET WITH HIS CHINESE COUNTERPART IN VALIANT - IN VIENNA SOME WEEKS AGO. JANET YELLEN HAS MET WITH A COUNTERPART. I THINK THERE IS THE PERSPECTIVE OF XI JINPING AND PRESIDENT BIDEN MEETING IN SAN FRANCISCO THIS YEAR AT THE APEC SUMMIT AND THE G20 IN INDIA. THIS IS NOT ENOUGH. I'M NOT SURE IF THERE EVER COULD BE ENOUGH WHEN TWO OF THE GREAT POWERS OF THE WORLD ARE IN THIS ESCALATORY SPIRAL BUT YOU NEED TO TAKE BABY STEPS TO RESTORE TRUST AND BUILD CONFIDENCE AND I THINK BEING AT THE SHANGRI-LA DIALOGUE AND ALLOWING FOR OTHER FORMS OF DIALOGUE TO OCCUR THERE AND IN PARALLEL IS A STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION TO AVOIDING ANY CONFLAGRATION. BOTH PARTIES KNOW THAT ANY TYPE OF CONFLICT WOULD BE DEVASTATING FOR EVERYONE. CHINA AND UNITED STATES AND EVERYONE IN THE REGION. NOBODY WANTS THAT. SHERY WE HEARD EARLIER FROM RICHARD MARS, THE DEFENSE SECRETARY IN AUSTRALIA. HOW MUCH CAN THESE MIDDLE POWERS INCLUDING NOT JUST AUSTRALIA BUT INDIA AS WELL DO IN HELPING TO THAW THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE AND CHINA? > > I THINK WAY BIT. YOU MENTION INDIA AND AUSTRALIA. I WOULD OFFER JAPAN MIGHT BE THE KEY OR THE LINCHPIN IN THE REGION. JAPAN IS OBVIOUSLY AN AMERICAN ALLY SINCE AFTER WORLD WAR II. IT IS ALSO A MASSIVE TRADING PARTNER WITH CHINA. COUNTRIES LIKE JAPAN, AUSTRALIA, THEY HAVE THESE MILITARY RELATIONSHIPS AND ECONOMIC RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE UNITED STATES BUT THEY ALSO DEPEND HEAVILY ON CHINA FOR TRADE, EXPORT AND IMPORT. IT IS GOING TO BE VITAL FOR COUNTRIES LIKE JAPAN TO PLAY A MAJOR ROLE AND WHEN YOU THINK OF THE INDO PACIFIC AND THAT TERM IT IS ABOUT INCLUDING INDIA AS A GROWING POWER. INDIA IS BEGINNING TO EXERT MORE INFLUENCE AND HAS TO EXERT MORE INFLUENCE. IT IS SOON GOING TO BE THE MOST POPULOUS COUNTRY ON EARTH. THE MIDDLE POWERS AND REGIONAL PLAYERS HAVE TO HAVE AGENCY AND LEAD OF THE CONVERSATION ABOUT THE ESCALATING TENSIONS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE ONES THAT WILL SUFFER THE BRUNT OF CONSEQUENCES SHOULD TENSIONS CONTINUE TO SOUR OR A CONFLICT OCCUR. SHERY THE THING ABOUT ASIA IS THERE ARE SO MANY HISTORICAL ISSUES, TERRITORIAL ISSUES. YOU MENTION JAPAN AND WE HAVE THIS ONGOING SPAT WITH SOUTH KOREA. THAT SEEMS TO HAVE IMPROVED BUT HOW MUCH WILL THESE LINGERING CHALLENGES MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT TO SHOW A UNITED FRONT? > > I THINK THE THAWING IN RELATIONS BETWEEN SOUTH KOREA AND JAPAN IS INDICATIVE OF WHERE THE REGION IS HEADED. EVERYONE IS AWARE, LEADERS ARE AWARE CHINA IS GROWING. CHINA IS EXERTING MORE INFLUENCE. CHINA IS BUILDING ITS MILITARY. THEY HAVE NOW KIND OF A REASON TO ADDRESS POTENTIALLY SMALLER PROBLEMS THAT HAVE BEEN GOING ON FOR A LONG TIME TO KIND OF GET TO A MORE SUSTAINABLE AND PRODUCTIVE REGIONAL BALANCE. ONE OF THE THINGS I THINK ASIAN COUNTRIES, SINGAPORE IN PARTICULAR HAVE BEEN CLEAR ABOUT IS THE ECONOMICS OF THE REGION ARE VITAL. THE AEGEAN - THE FIJI MINISTER SAID GREEN BATTALIONS ARE NOT ACTUALLY THE THREAT TO THEM. IT IS ACTUALLY CLAIMANT CHANGE. - CLIMATE CHANGE. THERE ARE NUMBER OF THREATS PUSHING THESE COUNTRIES TOGETHER ON KIND OF COLLECTIVE ISSUES. I THINK AS THESE COLLECTIVE ISSUES START AMELIORATING WHAT POLITICAL SCIENTISTS CALL THE COLLECTIVE ACTION PROBLEM OR THE UNWILLINGNESS OF COUNTRIES TO WORK TOGETHER TO BEAR THE COST OF WORKING TOGETHER THEStream Schedule BTV+No schedule data available. In the first article of this three-part series, we identified five types of conversations, while in the second article, we looked at examples of these five types of conversations, and what could be accomplished. In this third and final article in this series of “Daring to Dialogue”, we continue by looking at dialogue more in-depth, trying to gain an understanding of how this conversation works. Structure of Conversation Determines Performances or Outcome The first step when we’re aiming for dialogue is to understand how conversations work. Conversations have a structure, and it’s the structure that actually determines performance or outcome of a conversation, and whether we are more in monologue or dialogue. Every sentence that we say can be coded into one of four actions, and that’s what makes conversations effective is when we’re able to voice all four of these actions fluently in a conversation. When we’re able to do that, the nature of the conversation changes, and we move from monologue to more skillful conversation and dialogue. Next, we’re going to walk through these four actions and notice, as I tell you about them, where you might start to place some judgment on one or more of them. The First Conversation Action Step is Move’ The first action step is move’. Move initiates. It suggests a new direction or introduces a new idea or concept in the conversation. For an example, “Let’s go to lunch.” This is a move. After a move, there are different responses. Next comes follow’. For example, “Sounds good,” this is a follow. Oppose challenges, oppose pushes back on ideas, providing alternatives or corrective action. For example, “No, I can’t today.” This is an oppose. Bystand bridges. It provides a neutral perspective or inquiry. For example, “I notice we have two different points of view here,” this is a bystand. Move and Oppose. Follow and Bystand Move and oppose are the vocal actions of advocacy or similar to defending, like we have in debate, and follow and bystand are the vocal actions of inquiry. Here’s the thing, we need both advocacy and inquiry in order to have a skillful conversation. Skillful Conversation With All Four Actions My husband and I had a trip planned to Bora Bora, which was a consequence of the pandemic. The other day he said, “Let’s go to Bora Bora.” That was his move. And I followed and I said, “I would love to.” And then I said, “I wonder what the current travel requirements are.” That was my bystand. And then I opposed, and I said, “But even if we could get there, I don’t really want to wear a mask on a plane for 15 hours right now.” It’s just not what I had envisioned. Next, I made a new move and said, “Let’s come back to this in six months and look at it.” This is an example of a conversation where you can see all four actions happening and we need all four to be voiced and active in the conversation in order for it to be a skillful conversation. Dialogic Approach vs Monologic Approach What can a dialogic approach versus a monologic approach get you? Engaging in dialogue comes from a belief that human beings create, refine, and share knowledge through conversation. And to illustrate the need for dialogue, I want to tell you a quick story. It’s a tale of two companies. The first one I’ll call “Blue Ocean Tech” and the second I’ll call “First Stack”, both are in the tech sector. These two companies had several similarities, both are about the same age. They were founded about 11 years ago. International organizations with offices worldwide, and Blue Ocean was a bit larger with about a billion in annual revenue and First Stack was about 200 million in revenue. Both companies were also experiencing what I call a front page crisis. This is where the executive team gets feedback from their organization via the media, on the front page of paper. And as you might imagine, this induces high stakes and it causes a great deal of disruption. So, executives in both of these companies were feeling called out, very blindsided. And as is often the case, one side of the story played out in great drama over the media and the other sides of the story remain untold. Just imagine; for the story to have made its way to the press, there is a great deal of frustration, a lack of feeling heard, and not valued by the employees. And in both cases, a belief that a moral crime had been committed by the executive team. Here’s where the similarities of those stories end because each company had a choice to either suspend or defend. First Stack chose to defend. They publicly defended their position and explained why the issue had happened. First Stack hired a consultant, a mediator, and the legal team to draft new policies and processes to fix the problem that they believed had created the mess in the first place. This might sound great, but it has kept the organization stuck in the same dysfunctional patterns that created their crisis in the first place. That was top down, in other words, the chances of them having another Groundhog Day moment are high. First Stack has returned to their old behaviors of monologue and protection. However, they’re filling in their mind, the roles expected of leaders, and yet both sides, employees and executives feel greatly misunderstood and deflated. Blue Ocean Tech made the choice to suspend. And they publicly took responsibility for what was happening, declined any further comment, noting that they were turning internally to listen. The executives of Blue Ocean Tech began to hold listening sessions in small groups across the company. Executives cleared their calendars and wanted to hear firsthand from employees what was happening. Blue Ocean Tech took action from their first round of dialogue, and then actually continued using that dialogic approach, engaging the whole company from the get go. The conversations have actually shifted the culture in the organization and changed the leadership team for better. They are still working on the outcomes of the story, but the end is pretty promising and the change feels sticky and real, because they are too changing mindset and thinking, not processes and rules. And they are moving forward, but with a very different energy and outcomes than First Stack. Defend vs Suspend. Different Action, Different Outcome Let’s get into what happened here. The executives in Blue Ocean Tech are no different from me or First Stack or you, but they had something in place that was different. They had a few key people around them that they trusted, who pushed back and opposed. Their very first instincts encouraged them to start listening without answers or solutions, just listening. This was daring and brave, and it was completely outside their comfort zone, but they did do it, and the executives in Blue Ocean Tech listened. It seems like the simplest thing in the world to do, and yet it was the hardest for them. They struggled with all the assumptions and the stories that we talked about earlier. But the impact was immediate and people really appreciated being respected and heard. Listening and asking questions are undervalued and underused because somewhere along the way, we have this story that heroic leadership looks like leading from the front, large, visible, making moves, setting direction, having all the answers. We also have a story about what unhelpful leadership looks like. It’s passive, it’s not leaderful, it’s not knowing, it’s listening, and that’s the story that First Stack bought into. In First Stack the executives didn’t see at all how prioritizing voices of those lower on the totem pole would align with the internal vision that they held about what leadership should look like and do in this kind of situation. And they were incredibly afraid of opening Pandora’s box if they involve staff. Instead of listening or asking questions, they just moved forward with what they thought should happen. Leaders Bring The Weather! The moral of this story is that leaders bring the weather. Early in my career, I worked at a small startup and we had a private chat channel. When the CEO arrived each morning, someone would give a weather report in the chat. It’s cloudy, it’s sunny, it’s stormy, literally what the mood of the CEO was. This weather report informed my plan and others for the day. On sunny days, I knew I could have important conversations that mattered. If the weather was stormy or cloudy, those were the days that I wanted to lay low and go home early if possible. As leaders, you don’t have to have a title to be a leader, but you bring the weather. So, your words, your energy, your tone, all matter. When you are frantically running down the road, too busy to pause and ask questions, you send the message that there’s no space for conversation here. But when you show up willing to suspend your viewpoint, ask questions and listen to those around you, you are signaling to others that their point of view is important and that they are valued, and you are actively creating the space for dialogue to happen. The weather you bring is not about what happens to you, it is how you choose to respond. What if instead of focusing on the solution in monologue, we focused on creating the space for dialogue, with the belief that on the other end of the dialogue would be a more sustainable solution that no one person could have thought of on their own? Your Leadership Challenge Moving Forward! I have a challenge for you as you move forward. Be intentional about choosing monologue or dialogue. Remember, there is a use for monologue, like when you want to get a bunch of information out, but where monologue does not serve us is in the complex, repetitive, no easy answer conversations. When a conversation matters, remember these key takeaways, suspend rather than defend. Suspend your viewpoint rather than defending it, this way you can hear others. Stay in the conversation. Remember Blue Ocean Tech and their commitment to staying in the conversation, even when they were hearing things that were hard to hear. Voice all four actions, move, follow, oppose, and bystand. All four actions are needed to be voiced in a skillful conversation. Listen, rather than having an answer. It Takes Courage to Lead! Again, Blue Ocean Tech courageously took a seat and listened to the voices and experiences of employees. This is where real potential for change comes in. Create a space for dialogue, and you have to go first! Think about Katherine, who made the choice to create space for dialogue, even though it had not been part of her previous leadership style. She recognized that big, bold vision she had for the company, depended on engaging all voices. And she had to make space for that to happen. Here’s the deal, we will not consciously choose to be a victim, and yet when we defend, this is the role we are taking unconsciously in lots of ways. For far too long, we have and continue to talk about agile as frameworks, practices, and tools. And then we wonder why changing culture and leadership style are still cited as the top challenges to achieving business agility. Conversations Are Our Interactions In order to courageously lead transformational change, the kind that supports organizations seeking agility in our fast paced world, we really need to take seriously from the agile manifesto that it’s about individuals and interactions. Conversations are our interactions and they require bravery. They are the core practice of how we learn, how we solve complex challenges, how we make meaning of our current environment, and how we innovate moving forward. I ask you How can you be more intentional about choosing dialogue? If you missed the previous articles in this series, you can find them here. Part 1 How Daring to Dialogue Improves Performance and Creates a Culture of Agility Part 2 The Most Effective Approach of Continued Dialogue It’s Where Change Happens! If you’d like to watch Marsha present this, click here for a video!

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